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Roughly this past year, my entire life came crashing down before me. I came across myself within an extremely difficult work situation, within the middle of a significant personal issue I had been trying to sort out with specialized help.
I’ve been a business owner with varying levels of success for roughly a decade or so, and therefore I’m used to improve and needing to juggle many different, difficult situations as well. However, this is different. It felt truly overwhelming.
Living so near to the edge for such a long time can’t be best for your health, right? I recall contemplating running from everything. Picking right up my bags and likely to a country a long way away, and just roaming the streets, or something. This thought kept creeping up in my own head several times weekly. When you get smacked in the facial skin, and things start falling down around you, it certainly makes you stop, check out what you have grown to be, and analyze your complete body of build up up to now.
People don’t change overnight- they change over long periods of time, likely due to an assortment of dormant tendencies and circumstances.
Roughly half a year ago, for the very first time in years, I took the advice of my physiologist, and took the chance to stop throughout a three-day weekend. For all those three days, I didn’t work, but used enough time to contemplate my entire life. What do I wish to do? What do I have to fix? What exactly are the commonalities in the various situations in work and life I find myself in? Just how much have I changed, just how much of this change is good, and just how much is bad?
And this is the scariest thing I’ve probably ever done. When you choose to become a business owner, you are likely somewhat delusional to believe that whatever your idea could be, it’ll work. You are also likely overtly optimistic about the results, and also have little self-doubt. The media often targets the strengths of entrepreneurship, the success, the amount of money, the fame etc, but rarely do you want to look for a piece on the toll entrepreneurship assumes you from a mental and physical standpoint.
For instance, how (almost) every investor is totally uninterested in the event that you get way significantly less than market value as compensation for your projects, and also have no chance to cash out during funding rounds, despite the fact that that is your life’s work- to them, you are among 100. Another example is that to reach your goals you teach you to ultimately never get too much with a win, or too low with a loss, but to just continue trekking. This turned me into someone that’s numb, and has difficulty expressing any kind of genuine emotions.
Furthermore, you teach yourself that your capital is time. So, for those who have a chance to connect to someone that might become a client, it will be pointless to invest your time with other people since that person does not have any potential to benefit you. It has been extremely hazardous to my childhood relationships. Also, you figure out how to require favors without thinking twice because you follow the rule "to never leave a stone unturned," without realizing that this is often interpreted to be opportunistic. In all honesty, I am uncertain how it has impacted me, but I assume I’ll be learning soon.
Your home is in a constant networking mode once you are getting together with people on a work basis. Subsequently, it has led me to be extremely introverted in my own personal life, always searching for a chance to sit with myself normally as possible. Lastly, your schedule is in constant flux, that makes it difficult to perform a balanced, organized life. I am now extremely aggressive when I am confronted with any off-schedule moment in my own personal life; however, life doesn’t work that way. All your family members don’t choose when to be sick, when to be depressed, when to provide birth, or when to die.
To conclude, I’m still figuring things out all this, and am in no way an expert about them, but here are a thing or two I feel will help some people who end up in similar situations.
- Seek professional help- it had been among the best decisions I’ve available.
- Assuming you have kids and even nephews and nieces, switch off your phone when hanging out with them. Check out a park, and goof around such as a kid.
- Make an effort to get back your weekends.
- Find an outlet for your stress. Don’t bottle it up, or it’ll eat you alive.
- Communicate whenever you can with loved ones and folks you work closely with, don’t hesitate to talk about your feelings and frustrations. You imagine people know what’s in your mind, but no-one does. It has been extremely problematic for me to understand.
- Embrace confrontation.
- And finally, don’t be afraid showing weakness. You aren’t a superman/woman, it’s ok to admit devoid of the answer to everything.
The idea of writing this up wasn’t to provide concrete solutions, but instead to start out a debate around the mental health of entrepreneurs in your community. So I’d want to hear your ideas and experiences, and hopefully, together, we are able to turn this right into a mainstream topic that people discuss freely and openly, and share experiences for the advantage of people.
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